ON THE COACHING COUCH

HOLD YOUR SEAHORSES!

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HOLD YOUR SEAHORSES!

Hold your seahorses! The fish are spawning…

This is my all-time favourite quote from a video game

(that my brain, just because it can, is currently denying

my access to), and it has become my go-to expression for

anything that is about to happen. Once everything has

been located, uploaded and duly processed that is.

Which, as it happens, is pretty much where we are with

the On the Coaching Couch blog right now. 

Guess what? In this, the third log referring to my upcoming coaching blog, On the Coaching Couch, we are going to follow our timeline to look into our past, to see whether we’ll be able to glean something of our future in there. You up for that? 

I wrote the first log entry on this topic on the 19th of January this year. That week I had made my first post on the msstyf.com domain. Back then, the blog was basically just a white wall; and I just had to scribble something, anything, on it to claim that space as mine. And to be able to look at a note nailed to that wall. Because it was such a momentous date.

At the time, I had been working on this project for two years (four if you count the first two years of brain activity), and I had absolutely nothing to show for it. Apart from a set of domain names and an ever-growing hierarchy of media content. But the only one who knew about it was me, and if I could have shown it to anyone, chances are they would not have known what they were looking at. 

Three months later, on the 19th of April, I wrote a second log entry, to mark the occasion of my second countdown post. It went up on the 15th and by then I had a tentative colour scheme going. I had also made the first header and footer and set up some rudimentary menus and pages. But all I could see, really, was that the world around us was starting to look like duck poop. The reality of the corona-isolation (I went into full lock-down in early March) was beginning to sink in, and the fact that so many people were refusing to even entertain the notion that we’re facing a pandemic really scared me.

Working on my pirate ship (or big blog experiment if you’d rather be boring, if technically correct) was my only escape from the horrors we were facing, so that was what I did. Every waking moment I worked on my blogs. Mostly, it meant thinking about things I wanted to do or problems I needed to solve. But as often as my head and body would allow, I’d be recording stuff on my dictaphone, sorting text files into publishing orders that made sense and looking for pictures that matched certain content. More than anything else, however, I slept. Or napped to be precise. Sleep, for some reason, eludes me.

Today, the 19th of July, I’m here to log that the third, and last, of the countdown posts was published this week. Which, if you’ve paid attention, means that the proof now is in the proverbial pudding. My dream for my two coaching blogs (one in Swedish and one in English) was to be able to turn the tap on the 15th of October, and that we would see a slow, but steady, content feed begin to fill their shelves and walls with engaging, though-provoking and helpful articles.

If I can do that, we may be able to, officially, open them to the public from the 15th of January 2021. On the day a year after that first tentative post was published. Now, that would be something special indeed. Something to be proud of.

When the blogs are, officially, open they will both feature a few sub domains. To begin with, these niche domains are probably going to be business/entrepreneur coaching, life/success coaching and coaching for teachers or writers. The main domain, or the foyer as I like to call it, will always house a range of general interest personal growth articles and a number of challenges. What I hope to achieve with that setup is to give my readers a chance to discover areas of growth and development they may not have considered. Or thought of as possible paths for themselves. I really do wish for this to become a place where we can help each other find the path that is right for us. And to encourage each other to keep searching until we find our path.

After the year we’ve had so far, I have decided that I will kick these blogs off with a series of articles and challenges all focussed on such topics as kindness, gratitude, managing stress and fear and how to deal with, and overcome, grief and hardships.

And with that, I’m passing the ball to you, my friend. What do you say? Shall we decide to meet up On the Coaching Couch on the 15th of October and see what happens? In the best-case scenario, we should be able to see the very first in a series of seven articles, and our first personal growth challenge, published. In the worst-case scenario, some spanner has been thrown in the works and we’ll have to brace ourselves and hope for the best. Either way, we’ll have a reason to pop in and say hi.

Just as I now have a reason to stop procrastinating and get back to my daily grind.

Thank you very much for the visit! I do appreciate the company, you know, and I look forward to seeing you soon.

Much love,

//Evalena 🖤🏴‍☠️

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Evalena Styf
M/S Resilience

After 25 years of anonymous blogging on a number of free platforms, Evalena Styf decided to go pro and put all of her writings on a private wall. In her personal blogs, she primarily writes about personal and professional development; about living the dream, and how to keep on living and loving when everything seems to be falling apart.

Using her knack for storytelling, Evalena dives into a sea of personal and professional experiences to bring a wide range of difficult and diverse topics to the surface. Get on board and let’s talk about funkophobia, social exclusion, chafing societal norms, mental & physical health issues, racism, poverty, identity, creativity, nerdiness, lusting for life and longing for death. 

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QUESTION OF THE DAY:

Are you coming to the housewarming on the 15th?

Right, we have a corona-free online housewarming party for twin coaching blogs, On the Coaching Couch and Växthuset, pencilled in for the 15th October? Will you be there to see if the slow content trickle begins? Slide into the comments below and let me know.

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Would you like to read more blogs in English (or Swedish)? If that’s a yes you’re in for a treat! On top of the Ship's Log here on the Quarterdeck, I have two personal blogs (All of Me in English and Hello Kära Gamla Sverige in Swedish) and a number of special interest blogs you might like. I will keep moving them over here and add new links as they materialise. 

 

You can find links to the blogs that are currently available at the very bottom of the right hand side column. If you want to know more about them before you check tham out, you can have a look at this blog family tree.

I’ve been an amateur blogger for just over 25 years now and I have learned a lot (about a lot of things!) over the years. Like the fact that one of my most frequently asked questions is how you can support me and help keep my posts coming.

As I transition into professional blogging, I’ll happily accept any offer of help and support to get wind in my sails. Most of all, I need help growing this blog. I’m well aware of the difficulty getting blog portal readers to tag along to a private domain, but with your help we may be able to grow the numbers enough for google and the other search engines to recognise me. And that is something of a requirement for pro bloggers. It’s a “without google’s spotlight you don’t exist” kinda thing.

When you read, share, like, comment, follow and subscribe, you make me ridiculously happy and grateful. A frame of mind that makes me work harder, which in turn means I churn out more blog posts. Winner, winner chicken dinner! =)

IF YOU WANT TO KEEP READING:

WELL I’LL BE DAMNED! IT SURE LOOKS LIKE WE’LL MAKE IT
WELCOME TO THE SPOONIEVERSE THE VAST PARALELL UNIVERSE OF THE UNWELL
A LOT LIKE DUCK POOP?
YES THAT IS WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE
WANNA TAG ALONG
ON MY LAST GREAT ADVENTURE?
When You Wish Upon A Star
WHAT DREAMS DO YOU
DREAM OF REALISING IN YOUR LIFE?
THUS THE COUNTDOWN
TO THE BIG REVEAL BEGINS…
And now the end is near
AND NOW THE END IS NEAR…
(BUT I AIN’T GOING NEAR NO CURTAINS!)
Happy New Year
HAPPY NEW YEAR AND WELCOME
TO THE 20’S! NOW WHAT DO WE DO?